Where Happiness Hides

We all think we know what will make us happy: more money. A better job. Love. But psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky says happiness doesn’t necessarily work like that. This week, we explore why happiness often slips through our fingers, and how to savor — and stretch out — our joys.

Additional Resources


The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn’t, What Shouldn’t Make You Happy, but Does, Sonja Lyubomirsky, Penguin Press, 2013.

The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want, Sonja Lyubomirsky, Penguin Press, 2008.


The Proximal Experience of Gratitude, Kristin Layous, Kate Sweeny, Christina Armenta, Soojung Na, Incheol Choi, Sonja Lyubomirsky, PLOS ONE, 2017.

The How, Why, What, When, and Who of Happiness: Mechanism Underlying the Success of Positive Activity Interventions, Kristin Layous and Sonja Lyubomirsky, in Positive emotion: Integrating the light sides and dark sides, J. Gruber & J. Moscowitz (Eds.), Oxford University Press, 2014.

The Pains and Pleasures of Parenting: When, Why, and How is Parenthood Associated With More or Less Well-Being?, S.Katherine Nelson, Kostadin Kushlev, & Sonja Lyubomirsky, Psychological Bulletin, 2014.

How Do Simple Positive Activities Increase Well-Being?, Sonja Lyubomirsky and Kristin Layous, Current Directions in Psychological Science, 2013.

Pursuing Happiness: The Architecture of Sustainable Change, Sonja Lyubomirsky, Kennon Sheldon, David Shkade, Review of General Psychology, 2005.


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